3 Things That Will Keep Your Marriage Knit Together Always

 Every marriage has its own challenges which, no matter how little, must not be 'comonised' but handled discreetly. 

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"Through wisdom is an house builded; and by understanding it is established."  Proverbs 24:3.

And also, Proverbs 14:1,  "Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands."

I have come to learn that three things are very important in keeping couples strongly (harmoniously) knit together always, regardless of whatever revelations that founded the union:

1. Understanding
2. Fear
3. Love

1. Understanding:

    “Through wisdom is an house builded; and by understanding it is established.” Proverbs 24:3.

i. An unclothed knowledge about God and His will.

 

Understanding God and His Will for your Marriage

    

    Jeremiah 9:23,24, “Thus saith the LORD, let not the wise man glory in his wisdom, neither let the mighty man glory in his might, let not the rich man glory in his riches: But let him that glorieth glory in this, that he understandeth and knoweth me, that I am the LORD which exercises lovingkindness, judgement, and righteousness, in the earth: for in these things I delight, saith the LORD.”

What are God’s will for your marriage?

Here are some notable one amongst others:

 

A.      Hebrews 13:4, “Marriage is honourable in all…”

* No extra marital affairs: No infidelity!

Proverbs ^:23-26, 32,33 & 1 Cornthians 7:2,3.

 

No extramarital affairs: No Infidelity: this is the will of God for your Marriage.

 

B.      Luke 16:18, “Whosoever putteth away his wife…”

* No separation nor divorce!

1 Corinthians 7:10,11.

 

Mark 10:1-12, Malachi 2:16a.

 

So, here is the will of God for your marriage: There should be no separation nor divorce!

 

C.      1 Corinthians 7:3,4,5, “Let the husband render…”

* No unnecessary abstinence in intimate relationship between spouses!

 

D.     Malachi 2:14-16, “Yet ye say, wherefore…”

* No deceit nor wickedness against your spouse!

 

E.      Mark 10:7,8, “For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and cleave to his wife; And they twain shall be one flesh: so then they are no more twain, but one flesh.”

 

* There must be leaving all others and cleaving to your spouse: That is Oneness!

 

F.       Matthew 19: 5,6, “And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh? Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.”

 

* God wants Monogamy!

i.                    A Man, not two nor more.

ii.                   His Wife, not wives.

iii.                 They Twain: twain repeated twice in the passage, not more, shall become one flesh (it is a spiritual mystery through God) till death parts you both!

God’s will, in marriage, is for a man and his wife, not men and their wife nor a man and his wives: God wants Monogamy!

ii. An unclothed knowledge about your Spouse.

    Understanding Your Spouse

2. Fear:

“Happy is the man that feareth alway: but he that hardeneth his heart shall fall into mischief.” Proverbs 28:14.

 

The term ‘Fear’ being used in this context is synonymous to the term ‘Reverence’.

Happy/Blessed is the man/woman/person that reverences always: but he that hardeneth his heart shall fall into mischief.

i. Reverential fear for God and His Word.

   Reverence for God and His Word

ii. Reverential fear for your Spouse.

    Reverence for your Spouse

3. Love:

    “There is no fear in love; but perfect love casteth out fear: because fear hath torment. He that feareth is not made perfect in love.” 1 John 4:18.

 

You need to understand that the term ‘fear’ being used here is not the same as the previous – reverential fear, but tormenting, deadening and destructive fear. This should not be.

i. Deliberate, active, love for God and his ways.

    Love for God and His Ways

ii. Deliberate, active, love for your Spouse.

    Love for your Spouse 

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Here is my piece of advice to you, dear friend, as well as to as many as will love to lead an exemplary home: Keep To These Things!

Remember that there will be challenges, but if you keep to these my counsels, you will always be in charge.

Wishing you the smoothest of Ride with all the Goodness of Heaven.

With Love,

Mrs Temitope Animashaun